How to thrive in a long distance relationship

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” Why long distance relationships are worth it”

” Long distance relationships do not

rely on physical love

 

Long distance relationships

are driven by the love that inspires your heart, mind

and souls”

Most think of a long distance relationship being only in the dating stages.  If only that were the case….

Recently  I have entered the military lifestyle and if you watched any movies you know most of it is long distance.  Even after getting married it is long distance part of the time. To add on to my husband being in the army I am still finishing classes at Savannah state university 1,000 miles away…… When we meet he wasn’t too far from where I lived but we still only got to see each other on the weekends. Then August rolls around and he has orders to Texas. Lookin back we had only been dating for 5 months when he got the orders so not very long at all but we both knew we would make long distance work.




In December the day after I finish finals we were road tripping to Texas to bring him to his new home. from that moment until getting married we saw each other about two weeks total between weekend trips and the week he came back to Georgia when we became engaged.  After getting engaged we didn’t see each other until the day before the wedding…. At this point, we are pros at making long distance work dating to married gives us a pretty good track record.  How did we make it work you might ask?  Well, let me tell you my rules so you can thrive in a long distance relationship.

Communication:

I know you have heard time and time again that communication is key.  This could not be truer if you aren’t sitting together all you have is talking (even together this is soooo important)  Kevin and I take time every night to talk on the phone and not every night has to have some deep conversations.  Some nights they are silly others they are serious and deep.  We use text messages and even snapchat to check in with each other during the day. If anything is bothering you, Tell them! Definitely, if it’s because of something they did! There’s a good chance they don’t know they messed up in the first place. So our number one rule is simple to talk to each other.




 Trust:

Trust is the next most important thing we have.  Without it, all of this would have crumbled early on.  with his job he is at work, or out in the field or whatever else he is doing while playing soldier. We don’t always get to talk every night like we wish to sometimes we can’t even text in that time. This can go for anyone in any profession though they won’t always be able to text you back right away! That’s something we understand in both of our lives we don’t like being glued to our phones so we rely more on our conversations at night to check in texts during the day to check in.

Being Present:

As I’ve said before we aren’t together very much definitely when I’m in the middle of a semester at school.  When we are together we are both presents. That means we tell our friends and family we will be mia for a few days and we put the phones down.  When we are together we are present and listening to each other.

Remember to breathe: We both are always reminding each other that this is only temporary. So a big step that helps with everything above is to remember to breathe. Breathe and remind yourself that long distance isn’t forever and that it does end. It might not feel like it at times and its ok to let those emotions through but after wards take a deep breath and remind yourself why you are doing this.



” When two hearts are meant for each other,

no distance is too far,

no time to long and no other

love can break them apart.”

If you are about to start being in a long distance relationship it is a commitment like no other.  Even the best of us still have anxiety but the key is to choose them everyday and breathe and simpl remember why you started this journey.

What are some things that help you make it in a long distance relationship?

9 Comments

  • Reply
    shelistsfive
    August 14, 2017 at 7:10 pm

    Very interesting! Happy you guys have found what works for you! Good advice for others!

  • Reply
    Katherine
    August 14, 2017 at 11:03 am

    Lovely story! Xx

    • Reply
      Jojo
      August 14, 2017 at 4:38 pm

      Thank you!

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    Jess
    August 11, 2017 at 2:49 pm

    What a neat story, thank you for sharing

    • Reply
      Jojo
      August 14, 2017 at 4:41 pm

      Thank you for taking the time to read it!

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    Ciara
    August 11, 2017 at 9:17 am

    I applaud you! I’m doing long distance for 2 months now and its so tough!!

    • Reply
      Jojo
      August 14, 2017 at 4:45 pm

      It is but it is so rewarding if both of you keep choosing each other and make it through it. Long distance is only temporary and there is an end!

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    Lauren
    August 11, 2017 at 9:14 am

    I love this! It reminded me so much of me and my husband! We also went two year without hardly seeing each other before we were married. Praise God though now… I get to look into his eyes everyday. It is hard but well worth it! Thank you for posting!

    • Reply
      Jojo
      August 14, 2017 at 4:46 pm

      It really is and you appreciate the time you are together after making it so long in a long distance relationship 🙂

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